Bedroom activities of married couples are considered extremely holy, and a physical expression of the unification of spirituality and physicality. The holiness of the act is accentuated by its modesty. To flaunt it, or to make it public, is only to lessen its holiness and make it mundane. As written in Rabbi Aryeh Kaplan’s book Jewish Meditation, “Used correctly, with the right intentions and thoughts, sex can be the purest and holiest experience in the world.”
Promiscuity is what Hollywood is selling, not a holy, private and intimate experience. G-d made relations intensely pleasurable. This is no accident. He loves us and wants us to experience a life of pleasure. But when you remove the spirituality from the act, what is left is temporary, meaningless, and emotionally and spiritually harmful. It’s an abuse and misuse of the gifts we were given. The Kabbalah treats this topic with even more seriousness than traditional thought does.
I sincerely hope that anyone involved with the study of Kabbalah reaches the point where the ideas begin to penetrate all aspects of their lives. True growth comes from personal change. We always need to be striving to be more spiritual. One of the main principles expressed in the mystical writings involves bringing spirituality into the physical world, and thereby elevating our realm. The destiny of mankind is to end up in a fusion from top to bottom. This is the goal we are hoping for.With pop stars leading us toward that end, we may be just one step away, given that we keep our eyes on the spiritual, not the material.